something I wished Rowan could read.
Perhaps one day you will love someone who disappoints you deeply.
If that happens, do not ask only whether they are sorry.
Ask whether they are willing to become different.
And ask yourself the same question.
I cried quietly.
Not like I had cried at the hospital.
This felt more like recognition than grief.
For weeks, I had asked whether Rowan deserved forgiveness.
Maybe that wasn’t the most useful question.
Forgiveness wasn’t a reward given to someone who behaved correctly.
The real question was
