My parents refused to care for my younger kids while I tended to my oldest with leukemia; I called my ex-husband, but he said: “You’re just a poor writer, deal with it”

that night.

The next morning, before the boys woke up, I sat down with a pencil and one of my old yellow legal pads.

The first sentence I wrote was about toast.

Kora at seven on steroids, screaming because I had cut her toast into squares when she had obviously wanted triangles.

I wrote it because it was too ordinary for a funeral speech and too alive to forget.

Once I had one true sentence, the next one came.

I wrote about the horse book.

The nail polish.

The way